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To the person or people who have continued to make dummy accounts and harass me, on top of sending me and I quote:

"im gonna fucking find you and gut you like a fish and use your innards as christmas tree decorations. delete your blog bitch before it happens"

You got what you wanted, sort of.

fuckyeahroleplayadvice is officially going on hiatus.

I have OCD, so I continually check things, specifically this blog being one of them, so it’s difficult to move back from, but I’ve had enough. I’ve been so panicked over these recent events that I’m just done and I’m going to do my best to just ignore this blog for a while.

I’m closing the ask box in thirty minutes. I may answer whatever I have in there periodically, but I won’t guarantee anything.

This is what it has come to. As much as I rationally know that all of this is stupid, anxiety and OCD do not care, leaving me scared, feeling like a worthless person and mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted.

A few ignorant people have ruined it for the group of people I know support me and what I do here

but apparently genuinely trying to help people is just wrong.

I’m going to step away from this blog for a little bit. I don’t know how long, but the only thing you may see right now is the Fund McKinsey post, because it’s really important to me.

I’m sorry guys, but all of this backlash and death threats debacle has me just up in arms. 

I’m just really tired.

I am at my wits end, and as much as I want to just blissfully ignore the things that have happened, I cannot.

I have received two death threats today over the Underage Smut post.

On top of that, people have been trash-talking about me personally in my inbox, simply because I am trying to give out important information to a community that I’ve been a part of for a long time.

I wish so much I could take it all back and never made the video or the original post about Underage Smut. I really wish I never bothered about it at all whatsoever.

As much as I’m glad it’s informing a lot of people, it’s not worth the backlash I’ve gotten, the horrible remarks about my appearance, voice, mannerisms, etc. and of all things to receive: death threats.

This is ridiculous.

I'm not sure if you can help with this but...What do you do when your roleplay partner dies? Like, legit passes away.
Anonymous

You grieve. You allow yourself to grieve. 

Even if you only spent 2 weeks roleplaying and talking, or 2 years, it can be a shock to the system that a person you were communicating with for a short or even a long period of time, died.

Take a break from roleplay. Be it a couple of days to a month. I would very much advise you to take a step back for a little bit and allow yourself some time to get over what happened.

Reach out, though. Talk to people on how you feel about it. Spell it out for yourself and let your emotions flow. You’re allowed to be hurt. You’re allowed to be in shock. Tell people how you feel. Don’t bottle it in—it could make the grieving process take a lot longer.

Do your best while in the process of grieving. That’s all you can do. 

My RP partners don't let me advance the plot through drama while they torture my character with their plot twists. I had my character snap so hard they considered quitting the RP. I did it out of spite. Was I wrong to do it?
Anonymous

Unfortunately, I have to say yes, as I feel some communication between you and your partners would have prevented this altogether.

If you aren’t happy with something, or aren’t enjoying something, then it’s incredibly important that you voice this with your partner. It can cause tension and drama to be prevented and allow you to work it out together.

If you’re wanting to discuss the situation with them, here is what I would say:

I just wanted to discuss the events that happened the other day with my character. Admittedly, I did it out of spite, but I think it’s important that I explain why. I feel that because of consistent drama and the way that you torture my character with your plot twists (offer examples) leaves be unable to advance the plot at all. I’d honestly had enough, causing me to have X react the way that he did. I should have said something about it sooner, rather than having him act that way, but I truly feel that you and I need to communicate more in terms of plot advancement, rather than just torturing X all the time.

I hope this helps!

There are so many themes and scenarios I want to roleplay, but I only have one person I regularly RP with, sometimes two when the other person is actually on (they work a lot and have an unreliable internet connection). Both of them are usually really open to the stuff I want to try, and really enthusiastic about working with my ideas. Together we’re able to create really interesting and engaging rps, and I enjoy all of them a lot.

The problem is, whenever I get a new idea, I kind of obsess over it for a while. It’s nearly all I can think about and I start imagining plot points I’d like to have happen and dialogue my character might eventually have a chance to say. I either keep thinking about it until I suggest it to one of them, or I just get a new idea (lather rinse repeat). And I get ideas from the weirdest places - doodles on my dash and posters in the mall, even TV commercials, so naturally I have a lot of ideas.

I don’t share all of my ideas with them but whenever I do, I feel like I’m annoying them, especially when we’re already in the middle of an RP (I can hop from wanting to do superheroes to wanting a coffeeshop AU in less than a day, sobs). They’ve never expressed disgruntlement at my ideas and we’ve also never stopped an RP before it was done just to start another one, but I really can’t help but feel like I should just keep my ideas to myself…I don’t really know what to do about it anymore. 

It’s okay to have a lot of ideas, but there are things you can do to see which ones really stick with you and which ones don’t, to maybe help you out.

First, if you’re concerned about annoying your partners, ask. Just ask them if it’s bothering them. I would hope they would tell you the truth.

On the other hand, make a little notebook of your ideas as they come. I do this with roleplays I would currently be in, and if an idea comes up for later, I write it down and then talk to my partner about it.

The good thing is that you mentioned you don’t stop a roleplay before it’s finished to start a new one. That’s a plus! This way you are just starting and stopping, which could make it a little frustrating for you and your partner.

Once you put down some ideas in your notebook, wait a couple days, look at them again, and see which one is the strongest and go with that one. See where it leads you and your partner then. That way, maybe you’ll be able to weed out the ones that are fleeting while others may be stronger and actually develop into a roleplay.

Don’t be too hard on yourself about it. It’s great to have a ready-to-go imagination! Just try to space it out some with bringing it up to your partners, so they don’t have 5 or more ideas they’re trying to keep track of while you may have 5 more in line. Balance it out and see which ones stick out more than others and go with them!

I go on an anonymous rping site where you get connected to partner's at random, and sometimes I get lucky and strike gold, but a lot of the time I get people who block relentlessly (shut down any ideas I put forth but don't provide any of their own) or people who outright refuse to start even if they're the ones with the ideas. It's exhausting being the one constantly having to put forth all the ideas, but I love RPing. What do I do?
Anonymous

You’re probably going to get disconnected a lot if you try to explain to them that they’re just blocking out all your ideas and aren’t being very willing to collaborate.

You could always put forth that you’d like to work on something together, but I would guarantee that it will be well received if the majority of the people you’re dealing with are acting this way.

If I were you, I’d broaden my horizons and maybe try some different methods of roleplaying. I offer many suggestions in the Resources section of this blog to find partners, including all kinds of different websites and such, so that may be of interest to you. 

I’m sure if you explored what I have here for you, you can be connected with some really great people who will actually plot and collaborate with you, which is (as I will assume) what you’re looking for.

I hope this helps!

i feel like whenever i try to make my character good at something, my rp partner will make their character better at it. and it doesn't really matter what, even when the talent in question is something both are equally good at in the canon, or that my character is canonically better at. i feel like she's not letting me explore my character's talents as much as i'd like, because even though i try to be realistic, she ends up playing her character kinda like, "okay that's cool but check this out"
Anonymous

Definitely bring it up in conversation.

Here is what I would say:

Hey, I was wondering if we could talk, as there’s been something that’s been bothering me lately. I’m not trying to offend you in any way, and I want you to know that first and foremost. It seems as though whenever I try to get my character to learn something new, or figure out what his talents are, your character comes in and does it better, every time. And it doesn’t matter what it is. (Offer examples if necessary) This is really discouraging to me, because I’m trying to explore my character, but feel like whenever I do try, your character comes in like “okay that’s cool, but check this out”. I just really want to explore his talents and would appreciate it if you could let me do that. 

Just let them know how you feel about the situation, and be honest. 

I hope this helps

Hello! I've been following your blog for a while, and I have a question: I recently made a second rp account that's indie. I have one other account that's part of a group. What would you suggest is a good way of balancing both accounts?
Anonymous

Say you have 3 people you interact with on the indie blog, and 5 people you interact with in the group. 

Try to interact with the group first, as activity can be pretty important. Try to post at least one post to each person you’re interacting with.

Then, if you feel up to it, try to post to each person at least once on your indie blog. 

If you can’t do this every day, do the group one day, indie the next. Make it every other day on each blog if nothing else.

If you feel it’s becoming too overwhelming, maybe back off of your indie blog, or if the group is too much, leave the group if you’re beginning to neglect people, etc. due to time constraints in your real life and so on.

If you’re beginning to neglect people, then you need to reevaluate your time going into the group and the indie blog. Balance your time and do what you feel is comfortable to you. If you’re getting stressed out, back off of some things

I hope this helps!

so some people from my rp community had made purely smut blogs using certain champs. This has caused quite a stir within the community where most of them are abusing the nsfw blogs, calling them no quality, pelting them with insults and death threats. I believe that people can rp whatever they want so long as its within the law. What is your opinion on this?
Anonymous

I feel that if they aren’t hurting anyone and they are staying within the law, then yes, they should be able to roleplay whatever they please.

Sometimes, when people just dislike something, they feel it’s important to get a lot of people on their side and attack the person or thing they do not like, just to make themselves feel better, like ‘yeah, a lot of people are hating the thing I hate, look what I’ve done’. 

This behavior is incredibly childish as well as toxic, because no one deserves death threats or insults, especially if they’re just minding their own business and roleplaying what they want to roleplay.

Whoever is doing this is an extremely unkind person, and their behavior is horrendous. Things like this should not happen.